So whats the BIG deal?
Does it really matter if you decide to have sex on the first date or not? I think it matters more to women. Women are often worried about how they are perceived afterward. Will he call? Some women wonder will their partner call the next day or should they chalk it up as a one night stand?! While Men on the other hand, just beat their chest and add another notch to their belt!
Perceptions and Misconceptions
Why are women looked at differently when it comes to having casual sex? Or Sexuality as a whole?! Sexually assertive women are looked down upon, labeled as being loose or desperate. Take a look at the language we use, sexually active women are often called out their name. Hoe! Slut! Tramp! While sexually assertive men are labeled as studs, pimps or a joked about as being a "Playa Playa". So Not Fair People!!
When it comes to sex, people tend to be gender bias. Girls are often encouraged to save themselves and refrain from any "sinful" acts. Girls are taught early age to wait until they are married. In many cultures abroad it is mandatory for a female to be a virgin before marriage. If she is not, she is considered spoiled goods or ruined, dishonoring her family's name. Boys have it a bit easier, they are often encouraged to explore the world and become "bread winners" or sow their wild oats!! Go get em' tiger! Make that money and hump away!
Plain Sexism if you ask me!!
Okay Back to the Topic at hand! So when is it the right time for two people to have sex? There isn't right or wrong answer to this question. I think it is up to the individual. If you decide to have sex on the first date, it is your personal choice. Women or Men should not be judged or labeled for choosing to have casual sex, Just Be Safe!! We don't want to see you on Maury!!
Talk Is Cheap!! What do you think? First Date Sex Anyone???
Drop A Dime On Em!!
It's a go as long as you bot agree. The thing is I rather find out right away that we are not compatible, instead of ivesting time and feelings to find out later that we do not match up well.
ReplyDeleteThere are a lot of dudes who make that "I'm a pimp" claim-- when they are the hoes and be sleeping wit some trash girls too-- that's no claim to fame gents; it's a claim to be tested. A pimp's claim to fame is NOT gettin involved with the hoes as said Iceburg Slim.
ReplyDeleteThese self-proclaimed "pimps", are lotta times the same cats who lack the self-control to not only be selective of their partnerships in life, but also lack the self-control to slap on the old jimmy hat. So yeah mad dudes be sluttier than the girls. The pitcher is a very important element in the game of baseball and this pitcher has two balls so be careful ladies if that man you about to do the one night stand with isn't a Man-whore. Short lived pleasures can lead to a short lived life or life long pain so be safe and don't discriminate!
Wow! Very Interesting Points! Thank you so much for your feed back!!
ReplyDeleteIt is unfortunate that women get labeled for being sexually involved without committment and men don't but it's reality. In my opinion alot of our sisters have lost sight of what it means to have standards. If a woman expects to be respected after giving herself away to a person she met that day she needs prayer. Men only respect women that demand respect in action & in deed so if she is easy to him he will assume she
ReplyDeleteis easy to all, respect is lost after the orgasm. So, its not about a double standard between men & women it's about a womans standards period. You can't be a jump-off with standards.